Let’s get real for a second. Ever catch yourself judging your parents’ life choices, only to realize you’re actually judging yourself? Or maybe you’ve been through some heavy stuff lately and feel like you’re withdrawing from the world, wondering if you’ll ever snap out of it. Oh, and let’s not forget the eternal struggle of balancing “going with the flow” with standing up for what you believe in. Sound familiar? Yeah, we’ve been there too. In this episode of our podcast, One Card Shy, we dive into all of this—and more—with no filter.
⚖️ Judging Your Parents? It’s Really About You
Here’s the tea: when you’re frustrated with your parents (or anyone, really), it’s usually a reflection of something you’re afraid of becoming. Maybe you’re mad your mom isn’t traveling more or living what you see as a “fuller life.” But guess what? That frustration is less about her and more about you. It’s a mirror. You’re scared of settling into a life that feels small or stagnant. And hey, that’s valid. But here’s the kicker: your parents’ happiness is their journey. Your job? Focus on your own journey.
🐻 Healing Trauma and the Power of Hibernation
If you’ve been through some serious life shifts lately (hello, 2024 chaos), you might feel like you’re withdrawing to protect yourself. And you know what? That’s okay. Sometimes, pulling back is exactly what you need to heal. Think of it like winter: a time to rest, recharge, and let your body and soul do the repair work. But here’s the thing—don’t judge it. Hibernation isn’t forever. Spring always comes. And when it does, you’ll feel ready to bloom again.
Pro tip: If you’re carrying trauma (and let’s be real, who isn’t?), try breathwork or shaking it out—literally. Jump up and down, dance like no one’s watching, or scream into a pillow. Get that energy moving. And if you’re not sleeping well (thanks, aging pets... we're looking at you Sheba), prioritize rest. Earplugs, brown noise, whatever it takes. Your body needs it.
🌊 Going with the Flow vs. Resisting the System
Now, let’s talk about the big one: how do you “go with the flow” while also standing up for what you believe in? Spoiler: It’s not about being passive. Being in the flow means taking action that feels aligned with you. If posting about social justice on Instagram fires you up, do it. If protesting an unjust law feels right, go for it. The key is to check in with yourself afterward. Are you judging your actions? Are you worried about what others think? That’s the resistance talking.
And here’s the thing: resistance isn’t always bad. Think of it like rocks in a river. The water (your flow) moves around them, but the rocks help guide its path. Sometimes, resistance is just a sign to pause and ask, “Is this really me?” Other times, it’s a call to action. Nelson Mandela didn’t change the world by “going with the flow.” He resisted injustice—and that was his flow.
🧘♀️ Spirituality Isn’t One-Size-Fits-All
Finally, let’s bust a myth: spirituality doesn’t mean sitting above the fray, never getting involved, or always being “zen.” That’s just one flavor of spirituality—and it’s not for everyone. Your spiritual path might look like activism, art, or even just showing up as your messy, authentic self. And that’s okay. Spirituality is as unique as you are. So, stop judging yourself for not fitting into some cookie-cutter idea of what it means to be “spiritual.” You’re already doing it right.
🎁 The Takeaway
Life is messy, healing isn’t linear, and spirituality isn’t a rulebook. Whether you’re judging your parents, processing trauma, or trying to figure out how to stand up for what you believe in, the key is to stay true to yourself. And remember: winter doesn’t last forever. Spring is coming.
What’s your flow? Let us know in the comments—or better yet, share it with us on social media. No judgment here. 😉
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